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Gemm last won the day on June 11 2012

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  1. Gemm


    It's the hardest thing to immigrate Renaldo - and if she had come here in the wrong frame of mind she would have found every single opportunity to find fault with America and I'm pretty sure your whole family would have been miserable. Trust me I was like in the beginning and I CHOSE to move here lol. Of course now I love it here and I would never go back but had you asked me to go back in the beginning when I was missing home and adjusting I wouldn't have thought tiwce. Support as in family support is huge and if she needs that then it's a very valid reason to stay. I hope your family stayes safe - it looks like you're in Cape Town so I'm sure you'll be fine. PS - Can you pass your Green Card to my sister and her family - they're dying to get here..lol
  2. Hi RubyShoes I've just read this after I sent you an email (which pretty much repeats a lot of what everyone has said lol). Denver is cold in winter and by mild I'm sure they're referring to the sun that always shines come summer and winter. But as was mention these places are so geared for it one hardly feels the cold. Attached garage with a car that starts up with a flick of a switch and warms up to your set temperatures and honestly the cold becomes a non factor. I never realised you are from Durban so the big difference you'll feel is the dryness here...it's dry even for a Joburger like me! lol
  3. Hi mleg Welcome to SAUSA and soon to be USA! I'll suggest a city - Boulder in Colorado (very close to Denver which you should check out too)> I'm not sure where you're from but the climate here is very similar to Joburg - except it snows in winter Also a big rugby state so if u have kids or are going to have kids and want them to play rugby there are loads of clubs here that offer the sport. It's the most healthy state to live in (fresh mountain air) and you'll see everyone and their dog either running or cycling - it's awesomely positive and friendly. So if you do make it out this way give me a buzz and you can stop in for tea and rusks! lol.....and a chat about getting settled into the U.S of A Best of luck with all your future plans
  4. Gemm

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    Cool thanks Superkruz - I'll check it out - now that you mentioned it I remember it's closer to 3 years rather than 2
  5. Gemm

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    Thanks Trixie - I actually meant to ask about that on the forum. I'm don't want to give up my SA citizenship and I also want my baby to have a SA passport when he's born (In November - will be born in the States). Is that the USA consulate you're talking about? My husbands works in the States now but he "might" might go back to contract work overseas and if he does we "might" go back to Cape Town just for a few years to save on taxes. Anyway we'll see but if we do go back for a bit I don't want to lose my SA citizenship. I only got my GC last year November - I was between the States and SA for about a year before we settled here and I believe I can only apply for naturalization in 2013. It certainly does make the transition easier falling into an already existing group of friends and I think fortunately because he's friends are quite well traveled they don't seem to bare that typical "naivety" that some folk have here - but I must be honest those that don't tend to get out much make up for it in their friendliness and willingness to learn more. Still it doesn't beat having family around and if I lived in a perfect world my brother would be in walking distance to the left and my sister to the right with my dad in the middle! How long have you been married for? It would be great to touch base with you and have someone in common to chat to. Would have been great to live a bit closer too. lol. I LOVE NY especially NYC. One of my favourite places in the world. Especially in winter with lights and steam coming out of the sidewalk - even did a trip through Central Park in a carriage - froze my ass off though Send me an email if you'd prefer to chat through that.
  6. Gemm

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    Hi Trixie Welcome - I'm also kinda new here although been in the States for a while now. I had the same easy path into the USA. Met my American husband while were both working overseas. He move to SA and we lived in Cape Town for a while before he decided that looking over his shoulder all the time was too much of the same stress he had when working oversees and didn't want to raise kids there. Anyway I hear you on missing things South African. Sometime when I the American accent gets too much and grates on my ears I stream Radio 702 all day long just to hear "home" and it makes me feel at home for a bit - works wonders actually. Not to mention that mostly what they talk about is politics and that reminds me of how glad I'm not having to deal with that anymore. Would chat in Afrikaans but mine is so poor it would end up being insulting - sorry. cheers Gemm
  7. Isn't it the hardest thing to have to decide about leaving South Africa? I was just talking to my sister the other day (she's still there) that one of the worst things to come out of South Africa are all the broken families. How many families have been forced to continue with their lives on separate sides of the globe. It's a real tragedy. Also coming from Cape Town makes it that much more difficult because it's not like you're really experiencing as much of the nonsense that's taking place in the other parts of South Africa not to mention the scenery. Let me put it this way - you need to be absolutely sure that the reasons you're leaving for, are real. It will do you no good to come here and THEN start justifying the reason that you left because you'll soon start finding yourself in a place where you will look for all the negative things about South Africa to make your move justifiable. It's a bad place to be in because in your heart you could have stayed and probably been ok but you're having to convince yourself that it was a good move so you live in limbo, with no real home because you've turned your back on South Africa and haven't quite accepted the USA as your home. If you are truly truly concerned about the crime and the future of your children then that will be enough when you get here and you will always be able to remember the reasons that you left. You will be content with the fact that your children will be better off in the future. Like Superkruz said you need to weigh the pro's with the con's, be honest, weigh the potential, is it better to have kids grow up with cousins, aunts, uncles grannies or is it better that they have safety. Safety won in the end for us. I've come to accept that South Africa will always have a place in my heart and I'll never turn my back on her but I'd rather my children don't get attached to a beautiful sunset and sparkling beach just to find themselves in the same situation where I am one day and they have to make the hard decision to up and leave. They will always know South Africa as part of their roots and if they decided they want to live in South Africa one day it will be fine because the decision will be based on good emotions, not forced because of fear. This quote from "Cry the beloved country" was always so fitting: "Cry, the beloved country, for the unborn child that is the inheritor of our fear. Let him not love the earth too deeply. Let him not laugh too gladly when the water runs through his fingers, nor stand too silent when the setting sun makes red the veld with fire. Let him not be too moved when the birds of his land are singing, nor give too much of his heart to a mountain or a valley. For fear will rob him of all if he gives too much."
  8. Well i think that' where the biggest problem lies - who the hell can get in here? But I'd be inclined to think that the majority of people here will say USA because they're here and not there. I lived in both countries and I can honestly say that the USA was the easiest to adjust to. To say Australia is a nanny state is true through and through and the biggest reason I would never ever live there again. It's really the small things that can honestly make a person feel like a child. For example one night out in Perth: - Couldn't order double drinks - A big burly bouncer walked up to a couple of kids singing in the bar just having a good wholesome time, tapped them on the back and told them to keep it down - any atmosphere was instantly killed. - Weren't allowed to take left overs home - in case you get sick. - Got back to the hotel and could not order a burger medium done - had to be done well - in case you get sick. - In all this time we saw about 17 cops patrolling the streets on horse back and on bikes. - Next day friends were not allowed to throw a rugby ball on the beach in case it hit some one. i know this sounds petty and some people like my sister would love this (she like order and knowing that people will do what they're told) but after a while it starts taking it's toll. You start really thinking that everything you do is wrong and your every move scrutinized. I think if you've grown up with this that's fine but if you're suddenly new to this type of scrutiny it's not easy. It became suffocating to me and I felt like I was back in South Africa expect this time your couldn't physically see the safety bars but that feeling of restriction is always with you. America has a good balance. You feel the security without feeling trapped. The important things are kept in check like DUI etc but they don't go over board and treat you like an infant child with no initiative. As for Rugby and good weather - I couldn't find a more comparable State to SA than Colorado. Close to Denver is the USA Rugby committee and there are tons of Rugby clubs that kids can join and it's becoming more and more popular every year. We have American friends that have kids that play rugby and we're sending our kids there too one day to play the sport. What's also nice is that when you do watch Rugby you can support SA and not feel like you're being unfaithful to the country that you live in because most of your friends will support SA right along with you ( unless it's the rare occasion that USA does play ;-) It's difficult to know what place you'll like unless you've actually lived there and let the honeymoon phase pass. But if you asked me I would never ever ever in a hundred years be able to go back and live in Oz, - I'd sooner go back to SA.
  9. Thanks SJ27 I was about to ask if one can apply for the F4 and have them still do the lotto but it looks like that's what you did and it's fine. 13 years is long but at least it's an option for them to get out if things don't improve. (They've entered the lotto 2 years now but still no luck)
  10. SJ27's comment cracked me up about not knowing there were any white's living in South Africa. My husband is American and every time he says he's married to a South African he gets an odd look .But whats actually is sad is that when they say they didn't know there are whites and then you come back with a simple question "so you have heard of apartheid have you not?" you can see the wheel turning in their brain and they definitely know the word but it never clicks. Eventually you just say it was the big awful thing, the separation of blacks and whites...the whole Nelson Mandela legacy.... and finally the penny drops. I've had dear husband's mom ask if we get hamburgers in SA and his dear father ask if we celebrate all the typical American holidays. I love it especially watching my husbands face when he has to explain the actual meaning about those very American holidays - to his family! Thank the gods that he's a well traveled individual because really...
  11. Hello well informed South Africans I'm new here and was hoping someone with a similar experience could share their knowledge on how to get one's siblings here and if it's even possible. Of course as most living here I'm truly starting to appreciate living in an environment that is positive and healthy. It took me a good part of two years living here and some pretty awful things happening back at in SA to fully appreciate my circumstances but appreciate them I do and now there's just one thing I'd like to "fix" Getting my family here. Has anyone had any luck bringing their sibling across once you've reached nationalization? Whenyou were able to apply for them to come over what was the process and how long after the initial application did it take for them to get here? If anyone has any other ideas that may work getting them here earlier I would really appreciate a PM on how this might be possible - legally of course. Thank you very much.
  12. Hi moobear I'm new here but recently read your post and it struck a chord. I went through very much the same thing as you did when I left the "big one" in 2010. I hadn't been flying for them for very long but still it was a pretty cushy job as you know. Anyway it took me the best part of two years living in the USA to finally decide that leaving and coming here was the right decision. My American husband and I lived in Cape town for 2 years while I flew and then decided try and start a family and ultimately that was our decision to come here - my husband did not want to raise a family in SA if we had the opportunity to raise one here. I stopped flying when I got here - partly because I'm not the breadwinner and I need to be at home when our baby arrives and partly because I don't see myself doing airline flying here, corporate maybe but by the time I decide I probably won't be current enough for any position. So for now I'll stick to "fun flying" (which I know is not an option for you.) It's hard, it's very very hard to leave everything you have, the stability but more so the family behind - and this will be very hard for your wife especially if you have no family here and she's on her own. It's something you really need to talk to her about and how she feels when you're away for a 3 night lay over and she's here by herself. Of course over time that will change and you'll get your click but in the beginning it is hard. I just want to lay it out there so that you have all the things you need to talk about when you come over. Had we not wanted to start a family I would have stayed in SA or at least returned. But throw a kid in the works and for us that's what became the deciding factor. It was a hard choice - my career or my children's future and when you're in South Africa it's difficult to see exactly what that future holds - we just adapt to the changes around us and hope that things will get better. It took going home this past January to see that making that very difficult decision to leave was the right decision. I had about 7 really awful things happen to friends of mine and my family in the short space of time that I was home. I know no-one needs me to go into detail about those experience and lets just say that everyone lived but in a way I think I needed to be home when those things happened so I could finally get that confirmation that leaving a job like I had was the right thing - for my child. I don't like that it took something so negative for me to make me ok with my decision and as crazy as it sounds I would have still put up with all the shit if it was just me - weird I know but being closer to family would have been more important to me. Now that my own family is growing that whole perspective changes. It stops being about me and become about my soon to be child. My brother is desperately trying to get in here too - he flies a G450 and there seems to be some opportunities if you don't go the airline route and try corporate. He lives in Dubai and will gladly have a contract position in Dubai, work there for a month and live in the USA for the month he is off, If he could get a GC this would be his plan. Is this not an option for you? The going rate for a P1 is around $100 000.00 to about $150 000.00 a year on a business jet and you would have an offshore bank account and probably not have to pay tax because you're not earning in the USA but please don't quote me because I don't really know. I imagine you made the decision to enter the Lotto for a reason and if you do decided to come here you'll have to remember those reasons because we forget them when we come here. Again best of luck and if you need anything questions cleared about validating licenses and transferring your CAA ATP to an FAA one I'm busy with that now. PS: They don't do a straight transfer - you'll get a PPC (PPL) and then have to test for ATPL when you're here. Whether or not all your rating are transferred after the test I'm not actually sure - you may sit with an FAA ATPL but no ratings. There is a way around this - I just don't know what it is yet. Take care and best of luck with your decision.
  13. Did I just leave a comment on your home page? Sorry - was meant for my "about me"

  14. Love the USA - miss my family. No better place on earth than above it, flying has always been my passion.

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